Flipping my lid

I flipped my lid at 10.30pm last night. The youngest came out of her bedroom and announced she’d forgotten to put her dirty sport uniform in the load of washing that had just finished spinning.

And she needed it by 7.30am this morning.

The washing machine can’t go back on at 10.30pm at night because the dogs sleep in our tiny laundry and Bilbo has anxiety issues and the shaking and shuddering and spinning freaks him out.

The laundry is also close to my room and the spin cycle would not be conducive to me having a good night’s sleep either.

I was tired and stressed, so I may have started swearing and yelling.

I was still frantically working at that point, payback for ducking up to DD’s at lunchtime for a swim.

We went to Palm Beach for a dip. It was GLORIOUS. I didn’t want to get out.

Then we had Singapore Noodles on DD’s deck. They were yum.

I was so smiley as I drove to pick the youngest up from school and drop her to skipping practice.

Then I worked and worked until I yelled and yelled.

Clinical Professor of Psychiatry Dan Siegal coined the term “flipping your lid” as a metaphor for our experience of being in the throes of anger, and what happens in our brain when anger takes hold.

As Fast Company explains: “You might have learned about the amygdala, an almond-sized part of your limbic system, sometimes called the emotion center of our brains. When you feel relaxed and alert after a good nights sleep, for example, your amygdala’s activity may be balanced and linked with your neocortex, the “thinking” part of your brain.

“If you go to work and hear your boss say ‘Your presentation last night sucked’, this statement may trigger your amygdala to become active and fire signals through your brain from anger, to hurt, fear, and anxiety. If this reaches a threshold, the amygdala may ‘take over’ your brain activity. This means it disconnects from your neocortex saying, ‘I’m in charge now’. There’s now very little possibility for you to be compassionate to others until you’ve found a way to calm your amygdala and for your thinking brain to reconnect.

“Hence when you ‘flip your lid’, your ‘lid’ is the neocortex no longer keeping the amygdala – your ‘boiling pot’ – connected. It’s bubbling and spewing about.

“Many of our most unfortunate experiences happen when we do things with a ‘flipped lid’.”

Yup.

In this case, I just yelled about my daughter’s washing. When I calmed down, I apologised for losing my temper. I also resolved to try and slow down a bit. Yay for the weekend. Boo for how much work I need to get through today … in 32C heat … thank you climate change.

No time for a song of the day.

Catch you Monday when, hopefully, I’ve had a chance to unwind and get my lid back on.

Oh, and the youngest is wearing her school uniform today instead of her sport uniform.

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  1. My answer to the unwashed uniform problem I was taught by my eldest, Alex, about 3 or 4 years ago, he is now about to turn 29, & that is ‘I think that’s a you problem’…
    Don’t stress the small stuff.

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