The memories you share

“Alana, we care about you and the memories that you share here. We thought that you’d like to look back on this post from 3 years ago.” How do you feel about the little “Your memories on Facebook” surprises that pop up in your news feed each week? I can’t help thinking they must be […]

Get bitter or get better

A former colleague who has battled chronic health issues most of her life posted this meme on social media yesterday: It’s such a powerful message. I love it. And I love that I chose to get better. One of my core beliefs post marriage break-up is that bitterness does no one any good. I recently […]

Acting like a teenager

I can’t quite believe my eldest daughter turns 13 today. How. Did. THAT. Happen? Mind you, she’s looked [and presented] like a teenager for the past four years, so it feels slightly anti-climactic. Her dad and I are taking her out to dinner tonight and she’s requested ear piercing and headphones as her gifts. I […]

My cyberstalking regret

I did some self-destructive things when my husband left that I now regret. One of the most painful was discovering I could turn on the “where is my iPhone?” function on my iPad and – because we still shared an iCloud – track his movements. It was gut wrenching to watch that little blip move […]

Well I screwed THAT up

I feel like a right-wing Donald Trump-style wannabe after copping a serve from a few people over yesterday’s blog. It seems, in the midst of flying off the handle, I gave the awful impression that I didn’t think divorced men should pay child support and it was treating them like an ATM if you expected […]

No sainthood for me

As my regular readers know, I’m big on positive co-parenting to ensure your kids come out the other side of divorce as unscathed as possible. I miss out on sainthood because I write a daily blog that expresses occasional displeasure with the way my marriage ended. But, apart from that, I reckon I’ve been pretty bloody […]

Oh father

Just a few weeks ago I wrote that I was still really angry with my ex. Well, much like my renovation revelation earlier this week, I realised something almost immediately after I pressed send on that blog post. What I’m actually cranky about is that I’m not angry at him any more. How dare I […]

So much anger

DD is perturbed by how angry I remain with my ex. It’s been more than two years since we separated, I’m happily in a new relationship, my life is is filled with lovely things, but the fury still simmers. (I know it’s not healthy. The negative feelings are slowly ebbing. Two years isn’t really that […]

When the hope dies

During the in-denial early years of my marriage irrevocably falling apart, I saw a movie called Hope Springs. It was about a couple in their 50s – played by Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones – who’ve forgotten how to touch, love or connect with each other. I was quite devastated by Meryl Streep’s abject unhappiness in her […]

My birthday boy

I spent months wondering how to make DD’s birthday (today) special. So many plans flitted through my head. But – as you and Woody Allen both know – if you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans. So nothing turned out quite the way I expected. Well, one thing did. Actually, it […]