I got teary at the hairdressing salon the other day …. and not because I have a new shorter ‘do …
I was scrolling through Facebook while my colour was setting (or whatever colour does at a salon) and saw a story called: ‘This is my dad, mowing my mom’s lawn. They’ve been divorced 28 years’.
His ex wife has bad knees and couldn’t push the lawn mower around. Her second husband was out of town for work, so he did it for her.
Oh my heart!
Not that I want my ex mowing my lawn in 28 years time, but I loved what his daughter said about it.
Her words reinforced that it’s worth all the hard work I’ve put into have positive relationship with the father of my children.
The daughter wrote: “This is co-parenting. This is how lucky I am to have 4 parents who respect each other, and know that at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is showing your children (even ones that are 32 years old) how to treat people, and how to love your family, no matter how it came together.
“My dad said he didn’t do this for the recognition. He said my mom and he decided when they we going through their divorce they would both choose to be adults and treat each other with respect and compassion, because no matter how their marriage ended, they both loved each other very much at one point, and that, that love – counts for something. That if they were going to raise their children to be good, kind people, they needed to be good kind people.”
That’s when my eyes started to water. How lovely are those words? And so true!
Yes, my marriage ended, but we loved each other once. That love counts for something. We want to raise our kids to be good, kind people. So we try to be good, kind people.
There’s nothing easy about a relationship ending, especially when there are kids involved. But holding onto the anger only makes it harder for everyone to heal.
I’m glad I let it go.
Song of the day: Frankie Goes to Hollywood “The power of love”