I unfollowed a Facebook page yesterday. It was REALLY giving me the shites. It’s called “Brain Porn” – I’m not going to link to it because you are much better off without it in your life.

It even has the audacity to feature Hugh Laurie as its cover image, holding a brain.

There’s nothing brainy about the site. It’s mainly filled with lots of relationship and sex “advice” that it scours from websites, packaged up with clickbaity headlines designed to make you feel inadequate.

Recent stories include:

If He Does These 10 Things, He’s COMPLETELY In Love With You

If Your Guy Ever Does These 5 Things, Don’t Marry Him

He’s Not Your Forever Person Unless He Actually Puts Effort Into These 12 Things

7 Ways You Can Totally F*ck Up Your First Date

If He Doesn’t Have These 20 Qualities, He’s NOT Your Soulmate

6 Ways To Be The Best Girlfriend He’s Ever Had

How To Use Psychology To Make Someone Fall (And Stay) In Love With You

Puh-lease! Don’t they make you want to scream?

When I was feeling low after my husband left I was totally into all that stuff. Lists of ways to be more attractive, why I’d failed or reasons my ex was a bastard totally hooked me.

Now they just make my eyes roll.

You know what I’ve decided is the secret to a good relationship? Not following a list of rules you find on the internet, but being true to your heart and yourself.

The number one way I’ve found to do that is honesty. I don’t mean telling your partner that zit on their shoulder is repulsive. They don’t have any control over the zit and making them feel embarrassed about it is blah.

I’m talking about being honest with your feelings and emotions – with yourself and other people.

It can be difficult to open up and explain what’s in your heart or mind, but it’s the only way through.

Oh, and kindness and respect – they go a long way too!

Song of the day: Fleetwood Mac “Little lies”