The pity date

I went out with some single friends last night and they told me they’ve given up on internet dating and Tinder.

They’ve decided they want to meet someone the old fashioned way.

One was even bold enough to ask a waitress in a cafe to hand a bloke she fancied a note after she’d left with her phone number on it.

And he called her too! He turned out to be a really nice guy and they’ve become great friends.

Wow. Go her!

I had my brief flirtation with RSVP two years ago. DD still jokes about how terrible my profile was. Pity was one of the reasons he contacted me, both because of my terrible profile and the fact I stupidly left the site open on my computer every day and night, so it looked like I was constantly trawling for dates.


I didn’t really like RSVP, though it had its entertaining moments … and found love for me, so it seems a bit churlish to knock it!


I recalled in a blog post:

I got a curious “kiss” last week from a 33-year-old Italian bloke who moved to Sydney three  years ago and is looking to make “new friends”. He notes in his profile: “I am the man with magic or at least this is what they say about me.”

The Italian stallion’s accompanying message said: “I don’t think we are suited but I wanted to let you know that you’ve got a great profile!”

Now, I don’t know how he sent that message, since I can’t find it in the stock list of “kisses” [you can send a stock list of messages with your kiss – which is how you reach out to someone and let them know you’re interested – for free, but have to pay to deviate with something more personal]. Maybe he IS the man with the magic?

Sadly, I won’t get the chance to find out, as he’s already decided we’re not suited. But, on the positive side, I’ve got a great profile! [No, I didn’t. Liar]

I’d been fretting – a little – about my profile because it’s brief and doesn’t give much away. I checked out my competition and it’s all “stood on the global podiums, worked under the Sahara sun, now lead a professional normal life, waiting for your entry to close it” and “Somewhere out there is the man of my dreams, is that you?” and “life is a rollercoaster inside a maze” and “if i could arrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together” and “there’s a lot of superficial snobs on here … are you one??” and “I’ll try it once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.”

Actually, I could just keep on listing them … they’re FASCINATING.

I’m also wondering if the woman who gave herself the profile name “Swallow2” really thought it through. [In retrospect, I think she probably DID think it through …]

Back to the bloke side of RSVP: the site recently suggested someone it thinks is a perfect match for me. I checked his profile and he’s “ready to explore and create mischief with someone really insane.” He works “in finance” and has “plenty of time to escape during the day.”

I’m guessing he’s not looking for anything long term …

As for the guy who “kissed” me, then joined the “Casual Liaisons” group a few minutes later (RSVP helpfully updates you on the movements of everyone who kisses you) … I’m thinking he’s not looking for anything long term either.

Flipping heck, it’s a jungle out there.

It’s a jungle I’m incredibly glad not to be navigating any more, so I can understand where my single friends are coming from and I’m hoping they do meet someone the “natural” way, because they’re wonderful women and it seems impossible to me that a wonderful man won’t notice.

Song of the day: The Pretenders “Brass in pocket”





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