My mum is really upset about my “disaster” life.
I had it all – a husband, two gorgeous daughters, a nice house in a fancy suburb, money in the bank, a high-profile job …
Then everything fell apart.
I still have the two kids, but the rest is gone.
When Mum railed to me about the cruel injustice last night, part of me wanted to wail “Yeeeeesssss Mum, you’re riiiiigggggght, it’s awwwwwwful! Poooooooor meeeeeeee!!!”
But I didn’t, because I don’t really see my new life as a disaster.
My old life wasn’t making me happy.
I was very, very unhappy for a very, very long time.
I’m better off without that “perfect” life.
Perhaps not financially, definitely emotionally.
Sure, I have my anxious moments, but there are so many fun ones too.
How can my life be a “disaster” when I spent Saturday afternoon playing on a glorious beach with my gorgeous daughters. And Sunday night at Modus Operandi Craft Brewery, listening to live funk and soul music, eating pizza and holding hands with DD, then being delighted by DD’s brother jumping on stage to play an impromptu number on the keyboards.
And Monday night eating suburban Chinese food – mmmmm chicken with cashews – and drinking Riesling while cuddling on the couch DD.
What’s disastrous about that?
There are no pedicures or designer clothing orders from the US or free Botox or holidays in France, but hey, that’s pretty par for the course in “normal” life. The other stuff was a bit la-la. I feel embarrassed even writing the words.
It reminds me of how uncomfortable I felt when I read ex-Madison editor Lizzie Renkert’s revelation about life after retrenchment.
“I am watching friends go on incredible family holidays, upgrading their cars, buying the latest bags and shoes that I once coveted, but this just isn’t on the cards for me anymore,” she sadly noted.
Welcome to the real world. That’s the reality for most people – they’re just grateful they can pay their grocery bill.
Oh, what I am TALKING about? I’m still living a privileged life.
Don’t worry about me, Mum. I’ll be just fine.
Song of the day: Ed Sheeran “In My Life”