I need to run something past you


I’ve discovered over the past few days that I’ve hurt a few people’s feelings with things I’ve written on the blog.

I really, really hate hurting people’s feelings.

And one of the person’s feelings were hurt completely unwittingly. Perhaps I’ve lost perspective on boundaries? I’ve reread the blog that offended them and I’m still not entirely sure why they were so very upset with me.

I’ve also started worrying that anyone I meet who decides to Google my name will get the willies scared out of them and run a million miles in the opposite direction.

So, I’ve been wondering what to do.

I’ve been blogging every day for three years now. It would feel weird to stop. Sometimes I wonder if I’m capable of stopping.

The blog has become an extension of me. Possibly too much of an extension of me.

It’s over-sharing central.

And people seem to like it that way.

They don’t like it nearly so much when it’s just a recipe or some pretty photos. Although my bar hopping guide to Newcastle was a big hit.

Where to next? Take a deep breath and walk away? Find a new niche for the blog that’s about something other than my (deeply) personal life? Or continue blogging and be damned?

When I fretted to a friend about recent fallout from a blog post, they replied: “Hey, you are a blogger. Bloggers, like all writers, exaggerate their lives for effect. Also writers write about their close family, friends and not-so-friendly contacts. This is where you get stories from.”

But does that make it right?

Now, I’m pretty terrible at taking advice straight off, I get all defensive and prickly. But I do go away and mull it over carefully when I’ve chilled.

Is the blog an asset or a liability? Where do you think HouseGoesGome should go next?

Song of the day: The Clash “Should I stay or should I go?”

I couldn’t find the original clip, so here’s the Ukelele Orchestra version …




19 thoughts on “I need to run something past you

  1. We’re all grown-ups here and, if they don’t like it, they don’t have to read it. The essence of your blog is a combination of your honesty and vulnerability. Continue blogging and be damned, I say!

  2. I agree with Geoff – I love the way you ‘spill your guts’ it’s refreshingly honest & if people can’t face the truth bugger them!!

  3. I really admire your blogging consistency (every day – so good) and your ability to be honest and tell it like it is. It’s brave. It’s a gift to readers that you offer the insights into your life and what you’re thinking and feeling, as it’s helpful to people who may be going through similar things. Having said that, I also really like your recipe/round-up/pretty picture posts as well. I say if it makes YOU happy, keep blogging your truth! As to your worry about anyone you meet googling your name and running, surely the people who are right for you won’t run – they will admire your honesty and humour and be curious to know more. I guess the blog is a crash course for new people getting to know you! Whatever you decide to do, I am sure you will not stop writing because it’s part of who you are. I hope you continue to blog because I enjoy reading, but if you do blog less, I think you should use the time instead to write a novel because you have so many stories to mine from your life. Hope you have a great weekend. Sorry for the mini-essay!

  4. You should definitely watch the Helen Garner Monkey Grip doco on iView – she and Tsiolkas had some wonderful, insightful things to say on this very topic And please keep blogging. Please.

  5. I always read your blog in the morning before work and often don’t comment until the afternoon because I like to think about it and not reply in a rush. I agree with everyone above but I must add it often occurs to me that I wish I’d had a blog to read like this when I was going through my marriage breakup. You are probably helping a lot of people out there Alana… now and in the future. I really don’t think you over share at all. You’re being honest and in my opinion quite objective. Love your work 🙂

  6. As above…I love your blog…but for a weird reason…I think it’s honest and funny without trying to be funny. I find some bloggers try way too hard to be ‘funny’ and then it is soooo obvious..I lose interest. But I also do come to your blog for Anzac biscuit recipe…and slow cooker too. Just keeping writing..

  7. I really enjoy reading your blog, and imagine that you face a similar problem to any writer: how much of your personal life and the life of others around you do you use without causing undue hurt or breach of trust? A writer uses the material around them and I think that’s fair game. There is a certain pleasure in getting an insight into the lives of others. The only proviso that I would be guided by is whether it affects your children adversely. If it doesn’t, keep on going!

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