Middle-aged dating rocks

I wasn’t expecting to enjoy middle-aged dating quite so much.

To be honest, I wasn’t expecting to middle-aged date at all.

I didn’t think I would meet anyone who would give me a buzz.

And I really doubted my appeal to the opposite sex.

So I find it quite remarkable that I went on ONE date as a single woman and met someone I’m still partnered with more than a year later.

How freaky is that?

Despite staring down the barrel of womb angina on Friday, I’ve been super smiley this week.

Not every week feels as good as this one, life always has its peaks and troughs, but right now there’s a spring in my step.

Middle-aged dating is FUN.

I really don’t understand the women who pack up shop after their divorces. They’re missing out.

Sure, there’s lots of baggage to be carried and occasionally unpacked, but the good far outweighs the bad.

People told me to take my time to find myself after my marriage break-up. But finding DD helped me heal. It reminded me relationships don’t have to be as devastating as the last few years of my marriage.

Separating from my husband was one of the most awful things that’s ever happened to me, perhaps THE most awful thing after deaths of friends and family. While our last few years together were pretty crap, I didn’t want to walk away from my marriage. I wanted to fix it. But my ex was tired of trying to put all the broken pieces back together.

I wasn’t given a choice about it ending. He was adamant the door was permanently closed.

So I moved on and discovered there are upsides to being a single mum … in addition to all the exhausting downsides … Like not having my kids three days a week. Much as I adore them, I get three days of freedom that you don’t really have when you’re married.

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This week, DD and I have been to a party, walked on the beach, and sipped glasses of rose while looking out at the ocean … what’s not to like?

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Tonight we’ll eat curry with his friends and hold hands and feel much younger than our birth certificates say we are.

I’m so glad I startled the living daylights out of him at 6.30am one Tuesday morning by asking where we should go on our second date.

And I think he is too.

Song of the day: John Mayer & Keith Urban “Sweet thing”






8 thoughts on “Middle-aged dating rocks

  1. That really does sound like fun. A lot more fun than hanging out with a grumpy-pants who can’t be bothered socialising with your running friends when he made the decision that he wanted to tag along on a race weekend. And no I’m not bitter about it.

  2. I’m so glad you’re happy Alana. You deserve to be happy and loved. DD is lucky to have you too.
    As for me, I haven’t found the courage to try yet.

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