How cool is that quote? So cool.
I saw it on Facebook and had yet another of my gag-on-a-spoon hoopy-froody love-in moments.
This time I’ve realised that letting go of the hate means not hating ANYONE.
And that’s a big call.
Not that I really, truly hate anyone. But there are few people who’d make the shortlist should I wish to summon the bile.
I have, for example, worked with some total biatches in my time.
I totally don’t get why there are so many of them floating around in the office ether. Virtually every woman I talk to has been saddled with one at some stage or other in her career and been emotionally damaged in the process.
I didn’t go to a book launch a few weeks ago because I didn’t want to see one.
And there’s another I’ll never understand why karma hasn’t taken down yet.
But then, as Gandhi once said: “When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it–always.”
A little closer to home, a divorced blogger called Sophie Rosen discussed her conflicting emotions towards her ex and why she chose to focus on his goodness: “During the 26 years I have known my ex-husband, I witnessed this man work his mind and his body to its core providing for his family’s wellbeing. I watched him hold his children in his arms minutes after they were born and revel in their accomplishments as they reached milestone after milestone and achieved their own hard-earned goals. I have seen the way he once looked at me, with only love in his eyes, and how he bared his soul when he was vulnerable. Circumstances are different now. Yet history remains written in stone.”
It kind of freaked me out. It was like I’d discovered my blogger doppleganger …
But she is so right. And not just about ex-partners. I reckon it goes for ex everythings.
Unless they’re truly, pathologically twisted, there is goodness in them.
And I’m going to focus on that.
So there you go … I love youse all.
Not quite enough to clink champagne glasses together just yet, but maybe I’ll get there one day.
In the meantime …
Song of the day: Frankie Goes to Hollywood “The Power of Love”
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I quit a job in January. About three quarters of the reason was my boss was an asshole. But I could see it was a result of his history. He loved his son and did everything to stop him making the same mistakes and being treated the same way. The little I heard my bosses father sounded like a the source of trouble. He was on a most wanted list for fraud… The boss seemed to have absorbed this need to manipulate people for personal gain. I had enough of it. Then two months after I left I heard he had been fired. Enough people complained. I had left with a few complaints, but otherwise wanted to leave it as
“for personal reasons”. Karma caught up with him. But even now, I wish him well. If only to find another place. This time to thrive by being good, not try to thrive by being nasty.
I think you’re right Nic, it’s a pretty hollow victory to take satisfaction in someone else’s downfall, no matter their faults.
Yes Nic, karma does seem to swoop down and put things right with the universe. You’re right though Alana everyone has dark and light. My ex and I were finally able to sit and ENJOY a meal at the same table after twelve years when we celebrated our son graduating from Uni. Time is an excellent healer of wounds.
Ah, so only 12 years to go Pinky … piece of cake …!