Shut up, shut up, shut up

The “pull back on the blog” brigade is growing … I’ve been fielding concerned messages suggesting I may have regrets in the future for oversharing now …

So I will do my best to keep things light and breezy for a while.

No more woe-is-me drama. Well, not much. Well, way less …

Erm, I’ll see how I go …

To be honest, I’m getting tired of it myself. I sat on the couch yesterday thinking: who can I call and bore this time? And the only person I was brave enough to ring was my sister. Because she has to listen, she’s blood.

I was too embarrassed to bore anyone else with the same old blubber-fest crap.

It’s just … hard for a planner not to have a plan.

I like my future organised; my holidays booked a year in advance. I’d even started pondering retirement apartments by the sea. I quite like the look of this one at Queenscliff …


The thought of starting over terrifies me. I think it will excite me eventually once I get my groove back, but right now …

Come on guys … give me some tips for moving on …


4 thoughts on “Shut up, shut up, shut up

  1. do some things you have always wanted to do but never had time for when you have spare time (e.g. when the kids are not there). Start a course learning something, meet old friends you have lost touch with etc etc. I’ve been pretty much single for 7 years now since the end of the ‘big one’, and I’m happier for it. I know it seems hard to believe but it is true.

    • I’ve noticed how many friendships have been neglected in the past few years so I am working hard to rectify that (and keep myself busy at the same time!). It’s good to know that you are happier now, gives me faith in the future.

  2. Hi Alana, I had to respond to your latest blog to let you know that the path you are travelling is familiar to many. I was in a similar situation many years ago and remember well being sick of hearing my own voice telling my story over and over again. Luckily there were no such things as blogs then. My wonderful GP and counsellor gave me some wise advice at the time, he told me not to bore my friends with my story as they would start to edge away, but instead to save it up to tell him. I took this advice and it did keep me from overwhelming friends (and probably myself) with too much thinking and sharing. When you mentioned paying someone to listen to you the other day it really struck home with me. And today seeing you post the pic of that gorgeous apartment at Queenscliff (which I had cut out of the local paper myself and imagine myself sitting meditating on the ocean) I knew we were kindred spirits.
    Stay strong, it will get easier, but the pain will always live inside and we have to believe it has a purpose, even if it just enables us to help others going through similar times.

    • How funny that we both spotted the same apartment and got all dreamy!!!! You are so right about it enabling me to help others going through similar times. I will always know to reach out in future. Thank you for taking the time to comment, Anna.

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