I don’t know what to do. I wish my problem was simple, like what to wear to the Kidspot 50 Top Bloggers of 2012 cocktail party tomorrow night. (Although that’s gone a bit pear-shaped as well – I can’t wear my new Leona Edmiston dress, my fake tan is wearing off and I’ve developed Michael Jacksonitis, my legs are all patchy.) But it’s not. It’s Sprog 1, and it’s complicated. Her problems in the playground continue (see https://housegoeshome.com/2012/02/09/sticks-and-stones/). A classmate has been telling other kids she’s “evil” and not to play with her. How do you deal with that? Do you storm up to the child and give them a good shake? Do you lean in close and hiss threats in their ear? Do you call their mother? Sprog 1 doesn’t want me to do any of those things. I think she’s hoping the kid will get over it, be her friend again. I worry I’m making a mountain out of a molehill (see pic of molehills, above). Maybe it’s just a rite of passage that every girl goes through. Should I butt out and let Sprog 1 get on with it? I don’t remember my parents fighting my battles for me. I’ve tried expanding her social circle. I invite other girls over for playdates. But when the classmate gets wind of it, she steals them away, whispers nasty things about Sprog 1 in their ear. Yesterday, Sprog 1 told me another child had been told bad stuff about her. I asked why she thought it was happening – was there something she’d said or done that was making the other kid act this way? I explained it was better that I knew. I needed her side of the story, just in case there were complaints about her. She said she didn’t know. You take your child at her word, don’t you? Then I think about the parents who say they didn’t realise their child was the school bully. How could they possibly not know? Maybe I’m clueless too? Sprog 1 can be pretty tough on her little sister sometimes. She’s no angel. But she doesn’t seem the type to hurt others. Has your daughter had problems at school? How did you cope? What did you do?